"Loving to Survive" Graham (via kingcobracommander)
and its interesting that when watching tv or reading things the “man cave” always gets brought up as a half joke but really more serious thing that every man “needs” but then when women have craft rooms or other similar things related to their own interest it is always the butt of a joke (haha silly wimminz wanting space of their own)
space in which she can just be, space where she does not have to justify her presence by being engaged in work—is nonexistent unless she actively creates and maintains it.
This is it. Basically, this is what it is like to be a woman in the world. Not just in a home, but everywhere. We have to justify our presence by being attractive or doing useful work like taking care of men and children. Space is not given to us. We must take it for ourselves, carve it out.
Sorry but when(if) I have a house I am going to require a room for my studio. IfI make it multi-purpose(like a study/reading/alone and relaxation place)it’s gonna have to be a nice big room. I am just going to need my own damn space no matter what.
My mom did have her sewing room, but it was never treated as a joke or anything. Dad had the garage. I can’t believe this is a fucking issue.
Everyone should have a space of thee own especially those who are married, why I say that ? I love my wife to death always will, butt she should always have a space were it is all about her, just as I have, I don’t get my own space with out her getting the same. Butt let me tell you what if your both gamers as me and my wife are and you both set up separate game rooms its gona be lonely :l soooo my advice make your home around you both however you see fit butt make sure you balance your alone rooms /space with space made to bring you closer together :)